Bereavement
Bereavement
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Jean Watson
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This book of 24 undated reflections draws comfort and inspiration from the Bible and from experience for those who are going through a time of bereavement, as well as providing insight for those wanting to support others who are bereaved. Jean Watson suggests how it might feel to get through the dark days and to move, however slowly, from 'getting by' with help, to 'getting a life' in which living with loss goes alongside the gains in terms of new insights on faith and life and a greater ability to empathise with others.
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Jean Watson has written devotional books and biographies as well as books and teaching material for children, and is a member of the Day by Day with God contributor team (BRF/Christina Press). Her writing on bereavement is informed by her many experiences of bereavement and by getting alongside other bereaved people.
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Description | This book of 24 undated reflections draws comfort and inspiration from the Bible and from experience for those who are going through a time of bereavement, as well as providing insight for those wanting to support others who are bereaved. Jean Watson suggests how it might feel to get through the dark days and to move, however slowly, from 'getting by' with help, to 'getting a life' in which living with loss goes alongside the gains in terms of new insights on faith and life and a greater ability to empathise with others. |
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This book of 24 undated reflections draws comfort and inspiration from the Bible and from experience for those who are going through a time of bereavement, as well as providing insight for those wanting to support others who are bereaved. Jean Watson suggests how it might feel to get through the dark days and to move, however slowly, from 'getting by' with help, to 'getting a life' in which living with loss goes alongside the gains in terms of new insights on faith and life and a greater ability to empathise with others.
Author info
Jean Watson has written devotional books and biographies as well as books and teaching material for children, and is a member of the Day by Day with God contributor team (BRF/Christina Press). Her writing on bereavement is informed by her many experiences of bereavement and by getting alongside other bereaved people.
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Is Messy Church a format that can be used to do that?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe book is divided into three parts. The first gives an overview of the topic and touches on some of the reasons that we find it so challenging to think and talk about death. Part 2 comprises five short theological reflections on how Christians talk about death: remembering; saying goodbye and hello; sleeping tight; being loved and finding safe spaces. Part 3 sets out five Messy Church sessions with suggestions for activities and ‘celebrations’ that could be used as church services.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe first two parts I found helpful, and the whole concept of encouraging intergenerational conversation about death seems a good thing. I struggled, however, with Part 3: some of the activities struck me as too much ‘fun’ for the serious nature of the subject. 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In this book, four experienced authors and practitioners offer inter-generational approaches for engaging with questions of death and life in a safe and supportive setting. The material guides church communities who are dealing with the death of loved ones and other situations of loss in talking together as a church family, in applying the Christian message of the resurrection in challenging situations, and in listening to each other and developing their own insights.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eThe opening chapters offer an easy-to-read overview of issues of death and dying, and why this is such an important topic for churches. Part 2 consists of a series of five short theological reflections, exploring traditional images and the language that Christians have always used when talking about death. The five Messy Church sessions in Part 3 continue these themes, each offering material for a two-hour all-age Messy Church service followed by a meal together.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003e\u003ciframe title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/QRoJbFAPOGc\" height=\"315\" width=\"560\" allowfullscreen=\"\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" frameborder=\"0\"\u003e\u003c\/iframe\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003e\n\u003cspan\u003eA\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cspan\u003euthor info\u003c\/span\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eRevd Canon Dr Joanna Collicutt is Karl Jaspers Lecturer in Psychology and Spirituality at Ripon College Cuddesdon. She is also an associate minister in an Oxfordshire parish. Her other books include The Psychology of Christian Character Formation (SCM, 2015) and Thinking of You: A resource for the spiritual care of people with dementia (BRF, 2017).\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003e\u003cspan\u003eReviews\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTransforming Ministry Spring 2020. Review by Rona Orme\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAlthough written for use in Messy Churches, this book is a gift to the whole church. The first half should be essential reading for everyone in ministry. Whether we are involved in children’s ministry or not, we all meet parents and grandparents and teachers who want advice on how to talk to children about death. Death cafés are becoming popular with older folk, but children need to have these conversations too. Most children have experience of death, so they need the vocabulary to reflect on it. A solid theological base underpins this thoughtful book, so it contains hope and wise advice. We are encouraged to face the difficult conversations rather than to avoid an upsetting subject. There are many helpful suggestions for this. The second half includes five full Messy Church sessions. These contain a wealth of ideas for discussing issues of decay, loss, remembering, hope and safe spaces, which could be used in many different settings. This book is a challenge to include discussion of death in our exploration of the fullness of life.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eReviewed by Rona Orme\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eChurch Times 25.10.19.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e Review by Martine Oborne\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhen my son was a teenager, he was in hospital after an accident. A friend sent him a Get Well card, and I opened it for him and read out the message: ‘Get messy soon!’ I asked my son what this meant. Was it anything to do with making dens, water fights, or craft activities? ‘No,’ he replied. ‘It means “Let’s go out and get drunk.”’\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSo, when I saw the title of this book, I thought, at first, that it was about teenage drinking. But it’s not that kind of messy.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMessy Church, an initiative that has been going for about 15 years in the UK, seeks to provide a church experience for families who have not found other forms of church engaging. It usually involves paint, glue, glitter, and other messy substances, as craft activities are set up to explore a particular Christian theme or message; and this book is \u003cem\u003eSeriously Messy \u003c\/em\u003ebecause it addresses a serious subject: death. Is Messy Church a format that can be used to do that?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe book is divided into three parts. The first gives an overview of the topic and touches on some of the reasons that we find it so challenging to think and talk about death. Part 2 comprises five short theological reflections on how Christians talk about death: remembering; saying goodbye and hello; sleeping tight; being loved and finding safe spaces. Part 3 sets out five Messy Church sessions with suggestions for activities and ‘celebrations’ that could be used as church services.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe first two parts I found helpful, and the whole concept of encouraging intergenerational conversation about death seems a good thing. I struggled, however, with Part 3: some of the activities struck me as too much ‘fun’ for the serious nature of the subject. I could not imagine doing them with someone still in the very raw and early stages of a bereavement.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNone the less, I recommend the book. It sets out the theological framework that underpins our\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eChristian hope — that death is not the end, that we do not go into that last goodnight alone, that love triumphs over death. And it encourages us to find ways both to hear people’s doubts and fears and also to bring hope and comfort.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eReviewed by the Revd Martine Oborne, Vicar of St Michael’s, Chiswick, in London.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMethodist Recorder 18.10.19. Review by Karen Murphy\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe Messy Church initiative has been something of a revolution over the past few years with its focus on providing an appropriate and useful space for [people of all ages] to explore spirituality.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eSeriously Messy\u003c\/em\u003e is a fascinating book, developing the theme of spiritual exploration through practical and creative ideas that should be warmly welcomed by faith communities. \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTalking about death and our mortality is unfamiliar territory for our society. We are inclined to ignore the inevitable and pretend it ‘doesn’t mean us’. My experience in hospice chaplaincy is that older people, particularly, become anxious and fearful as the prospect of death draws nearer. It’s not unusual for someone in their 80s or 90s to close down a conversation about funeral\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eplanning and wishes for the future with considerable abruptness. I have also observed that younger patients are more willing to engage with the death and dying conversation as a general rule and see it as a practical duty in some respects to get things sorted.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSeriously Messy offers an excellent range of ideas, thought-provoking activities and creative ways in which conversations about death and dying can be encouraged. The ideas are presented with clarity and sensitivity, there is recognition of the potential difficulties of engaging in these conversations, but the authors build into the activities thoughtful ways of acknowledging the need for boundaries and safety.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePersonally, I will be using some of these ideas in our hospice reflective sessions with patients and families. These are usually people who are able to face the reality of facing their death. I can certainly commend the value of using this resource in worship, church groups and community projects such as ‘death cafes’ or bereavement support groups. This resource encourages us all to think about our mortality. Although we know it will happen to us all, death remains the taboo subject that raises fears.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe authors of Seriously Messy have created an excellent means of encouraging conversation around this most sensitive of subjects, and I completely commend it to our faith communities as a means of demystifying the one thing we are certain of.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eReviewed by Revd Karen Murphy is a chaplain to Weston Hospicecare Ltd.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e"}
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This is a book that enables us to see that being human will involve feelings of uncertainty and that although we have an unchangeable God, He is not immune to the pain and the confusion of His children. A valuable resource.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eReviewed by Cavan Wood \u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eReviewed by Paul Beasley-Murray \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/us12.campaign-archive.com\/?e=3cc647e01f\u0026amp;u=a45b3e6fc109e00f067477a28\u0026amp;id=5664bb31b8\"\u003eBooks for Today\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBRF of Abingdon continues to provide a range of superb resources for those engaged in children’s work. One such is \u003cem\u003eComfort in Uncertain Times\u003c\/em\u003e. This book will be of great help to many as we all begin to emerge from the pandemic. Each of the fifteen chapters tells a Bible story, and then provides conversation starts and end with suggestions on how to ‘connect with God’. Written for use by parents, it also can be used with great profit within a church setting by leaders of groups for children and young people. \u003c\/p\u003e","published_at":"2021-12-06T17:21:37+00:00","created_at":"2021-11-09T09:40:24+00:00","vendor":"Rachel Turner","type":"Paperback","tags":["Children and family ministry","Kindle","Parenting","Parenting for Faith books"],"price":899,"price_min":899,"price_max":899,"available":true,"price_varies":false,"compare_at_price":null,"compare_at_price_min":0,"compare_at_price_max":0,"compare_at_price_varies":false,"variants":[{"id":41384386658495,"title":"Paperback","option1":"Paperback","option2":null,"option3":null,"sku":"9780857466280","requires_shipping":true,"taxable":false,"featured_image":{"id":31080316207295,"product_id":7059668500671,"position":1,"created_at":"2021-12-06T17:18:16+00:00","updated_at":"2021-12-06T17:18:18+00:00","alt":null,"width":1181,"height":1800,"src":"\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/products\/9780857466280.jpg?v=1638811098","variant_ids":[41384386658495]},"available":true,"name":"Comfort in Uncertain Times - Paperback","public_title":"Paperback","options":["Paperback"],"price":899,"weight":185,"compare_at_price":null,"inventory_management":"shopify","barcode":"9780857466280","featured_media":{"alt":null,"id":23529003352255,"position":1,"preview_image":{"aspect_ratio":0.656,"height":1800,"width":1181,"src":"\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/products\/9780857466280.jpg?v=1638811098"}},"requires_selling_plan":false,"selling_plan_allocations":[]}],"images":["\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/products\/9780857466280.jpg?v=1638811098","\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/files\/2_2948f15a-6e4d-47c9-bcb4-7d25d5321033.png?v=1734095702"],"featured_image":"\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/products\/9780857466280.jpg?v=1638811098","options":["Format"],"media":[{"alt":null,"id":23529003352255,"position":1,"preview_image":{"aspect_ratio":0.656,"height":1800,"width":1181,"src":"\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/products\/9780857466280.jpg?v=1638811098"},"aspect_ratio":0.656,"height":1800,"media_type":"image","src":"\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/products\/9780857466280.jpg?v=1638811098","width":1181},{"alt":null,"id":63560967618940,"position":2,"preview_image":{"aspect_ratio":0.652,"height":2000,"width":1303,"src":"\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/files\/2_2948f15a-6e4d-47c9-bcb4-7d25d5321033.png?v=1734095702"},"aspect_ratio":0.652,"height":2000,"media_type":"image","src":"\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/files\/2_2948f15a-6e4d-47c9-bcb4-7d25d5321033.png?v=1734095702","width":1303}],"requires_selling_plan":false,"selling_plan_groups":[],"content":"\u003cp\u003eUncertainty and change can be hard, and even more so for a child. Feelings of confusion, powerlessness and insecurity may be overwhelming. Scripture is full of people just like our children who had to cope with uncertainty and transition and flourished as they saw God’s hand and presence within it all. Designed as a series of stories and discussions for families, this book lays a Biblical foundation for who God is in uncertain times and how to stay connected to him.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003eAuthor information\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003e\u003cimg style=\"margin-right: 10px; float: left;\" alt=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0148\/6107\/4532\/files\/RachelTurner_480x480.jpg?v=1676495221\" width=\"252\" height=\"252\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRachel Turner is an author, speaker and the Parenting for Faith pioneer for BRF. Untill March 2022, she led the Parenting for Faith team at BRF, and she presents the Parenting for Faith course, a video-based resource for church groups and individuals.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003ch5\u003ePraise for \u003cem\u003eComfort in the Darkness\u003c\/em\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e'What is not to love about this book?16 stories from the Bible are skilfully retold with just the right amount of drama, suspense and awe - perfect for a shared story!' Ali Campbell, The Resource 'It's simple, it's clever and it's profound. I found my own perspective on night-time changing along with my children's.' \u003cstrong\u003eVictoria Beech, Godventure. \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003eReviews\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTransforming Ministry Autumn 2022. Reviewed by Cavan Wood\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSubtitled ‘Helping children draw close to God through Biblical stories of anxiety, loss and transition’, never has a book been more needed in a post-Covid world where lockdown caused massive rises in mental health issues among young and old alike. The author rightly says it is the job of parents to help their children deal with the problems of change and bereavement. Her approach is to re-tell key biblical stories by putting the emphasis on our involvement in the narrative. There are sections on how to connect with God by prayer and by spiritual practices. As with many things designed to help children, this will also be a rich resource for churches tackling these issues with older members of the congregation. This is a book that enables us to see that being human will involve feelings of uncertainty and that although we have an unchangeable God, He is not immune to the pain and the confusion of His children. A valuable resource.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eReviewed by Cavan Wood \u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eReviewed by Paul Beasley-Murray \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/us12.campaign-archive.com\/?e=3cc647e01f\u0026amp;u=a45b3e6fc109e00f067477a28\u0026amp;id=5664bb31b8\"\u003eBooks for Today\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBRF of Abingdon continues to provide a range of superb resources for those engaged in children’s work. One such is \u003cem\u003eComfort in Uncertain Times\u003c\/em\u003e. This book will be of great help to many as we all begin to emerge from the pandemic. Each of the fifteen chapters tells a Bible story, and then provides conversation starts and end with suggestions on how to ‘connect with God’. Written for use by parents, it also can be used with great profit within a church setting by leaders of groups for children and young people. \u003c\/p\u003e"}
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{"id":7059690684607,"title":"Grief Notes: Walking through loss, the first year after bereavement","handle":"grief-notes-walking-through-loss","description":"\u003cp\u003eIn Grief Notes Tony Horsfall charts the first year of his grief journey since the death of his wife from cancer. Month by month he tells the unfolding story of walking with and through loss, weaving this together with biblical teaching on grief and insights gained from grief counselling. With a poignant mix of honesty and humour, Tony shares the challenges of rebuilding his life and reflects on how he has seen God meet his needs as he wrestled with grieving in a time of lockdown and pandemic.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePraise for Resilience in Life and Faith: 'This book will have a ministry-wide impact.' Dr Laura Mae Gardner, former International Vice President for Personnel for Wycliffe Bible Translators and SIL International\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003eAuthor info\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003e\u003cimg style=\"margin-right: 10px; float: left;\" src=\"https:\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0148\/6107\/4532\/files\/TonyHorsfall_2014_480x480.png?v=1676494125\" width=\"211\" height=\"317\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTony Horsfall is a well-respected author and retreat leader who has a lifetime’s experience in mentoring others, including church leaders and missionaries, both in Britain and overseas. His book Deep Calls to Deep was reissued in 2021 because of its emphasis on lament and its relevance post pandemic. Grief Notes is a companion volume, describing as it does the author’s own experience of crying out to God from the depths.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003ch5\u003eEndorsements\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI highly recommend Tony Horsfall's new book, 'Grief notes: Walking through loss'. We are all likely to experience loss and to be in contact with people who are grieving. Grief can be very isolating. This book can help us feel less isolated as Tony shares his journey with us.\" Dr Debbie Hawker\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003eReviews\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTransforming Ministry Winter 2022. Review by Sue Piper\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe author takes us through a very honest and detailed account of his first year of bereavement after the death of his wife, using diary entries, some brief, some more lengthy but always from the heart; and although he quotes from other authors about grief (including C S Lewis) his observations are very personal. Because of this, the giving of this book as a gift needs careful judgement. Horsfall observes not only that he has moved through various stages of grief, but that unexpected setbacks can occur as other losses are remembered, and other memories reawakened. A real strength of this book is that it could be used as a handbook for pastoral care and also given to team members of a pastoral group in training. With this in mind, the last page lists many organisations who are committed to offering support to the newly bereaved. This book is a hard read for anyone newly bereaved, but it is invaluable when read with respect and care for the reader. The author shows his trust in God in all that he has written, and his faith has sustained him in the darkest times.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eReview by\u003c\/em\u003e \u003cem\u003eSue\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cem\u003e Piper \u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eChurch Times 15.07.22. Review by Pat Ashworth\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA paradox confronts those writing about grieving, because, if there’s one thing everyone in that situation accepts, it is that grieving is different for everyone, and no one can tell you how to do it. The way we grieve is ‘as unique as our fingerprints’, Tony Horsfall points out in this memoir of the first year after bereavement, drawn from his diary notes.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHis grief after losing his wife of 47 years was intensified by the lockdown and consequent loss of the support systems that would normally have come into play. Survival was harder. Eating alone was worse. Almost all that he writes about will be recognisable to those who have lost a spouse, not least the unpredictability of how you will feel at any one time.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn a sense, there is nothing new here. The book doesn’t attempt deep philosophy around death and loss; nor is it a manual on how to cope day by day. But he articulates feelings that resonate, like this one: ‘It often feels like I live in two worlds at the same time. The one universe is full of kind compassionate friends doing their best to comfort and reassure me… But then there’s the space within my head, a parallel universe, to which I must return.’ \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHe finds comfort in his daily devotions; he finds resources that help, and he concludes that grief can provide a ‘doorway to growth’, in which ‘hopefully we become deeper people, freed from the shallowness associated with a comfortable life.’\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003cem\u003eReviewed by Pat Ashworth\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eReview by Ruth McAllen \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.teardropgrief.co.uk\"\u003ehttps:\/\/www.teardropgrief.co.uk\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn \u003cem\u003eGrief Notes\u003c\/em\u003e you get to sit in the passenger seat as author Tony Horsfall takes you on a bumpy ride through his first year of bereavement. The reader would wisely secure their seat belt whilst Tony navigates his rocky road of grief. Losing his wife, Evelyn, to cancer in the midst of a pandemic, being imprisoned by lockdown and staring his own mortality in the face left Tony grappling with learning to live again. Nevertheless, he takes up a vulnerable stance, as month-by-month he catalogues his journey, allowing you to step into his world. The reader gets the full experience, the days of overwhelming angst coupled with pin prick moments of hope as little by little Tony manoeuvres through the tough grind of grief.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI love how Tony carefully weaves together his personal story with a treasure trove of biblical insights and much wise counsel. You will certainly find yourself captivated by the welcome blend of crisp transparency and warm-hearted humour. I found myself crying as Tony shared his acute sense of loneliness, and laughing as he revealed he could not boil an egg. His experiences are all easily relatable. Despite having much he could not understand, Tony is resolute in holding tightly to his Christian faith and the God he knows as faithful.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI appreciated Tony’s encouraging style as he moves into days of fresh hope, sharing how ‘new hopes can emerge’ from the depths of grief. ‘I was like a tree cut down, and hope was gone,’ he writes, ‘and yet, by God’s grace, I am coming back to life’.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTony’s book has left me richer and I applaud him for sharing his story with such honesty, vulnerability and warm humour. To those who mourn, and those supporting the bereaved, this is a valuable read, full of gold nuggets found in dark places. I highly recommend it.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eReview by Ruth McAllen https:\/\/www.teardropgrief.co.uk\/\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTogether magazine July\/August 2022\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eReviewed by Fiona Lloyd in her Books for Everyday Life section\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis is a book born out of a difficult life situation. Horsfall shares his journey through the first year of bereavement following the death of his wife, Evelyn, in July 2020. The book is mostly in diary form, which feels like a helpful format for charting the course of grief, as many of us who have experienced the death of a loved one will be able to identify with the sense of marking off significant dates in a new way.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI appreciated the way Horsfall was willing to be very honest about his emotions and things he found particularly tricky (such as signing a grandchild’s birthday card with one name instead of two). This was in some ways hard to read, and yet there is a thread of hope running through the book that reminds us that, for the Christian believer, death is not the end.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHorsfall also takes time to share his thoughts and insights, including Bible passages that have proved comforting for him. This is done sensitively and there are no pat answers, but to my mind this makes the writing more authentic. There is also a useful list of further reading at the end of the book. I would recommend this to anyone who is struggling with grief themselves, but also as a valuable resource for those involved in pastoral care.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eReviewed by Paul Beasley-Murray \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/us12.campaign-archive.com\/?u=a45b3e6fc109e00f067477a28\u0026amp;id=5664bb31b8\"\u003eBooks for today\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eGrief Notes: Walking through loss\u003c\/em\u003e by Tony Horsfall, charts the first year of the author’s grief journey since the death of his wife from cancer. It is made up of notes he kept and postings he made online during the time, to which he subsequently added insights gained along the way from scripture as also from books on grief. It is a deeply moving story. Although no one’s grief is the same, nonetheless it will undoubtedly be of great help to many. If I were still a local church pastor, I would buy ten copies to give to those seeking to come to terms with the loss of a loved one. Full of common sense, it is also full of Christian faith!\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eReviewed by Richard Frost \u003cspan data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/workrestpray.com\/\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\" data-mce-href=\"http:\/\/workrestpray.com\/\"\u003eworkrestpray.com\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eEveryone’s journey through grief is unique. My own started when I was 17 when my Mum died. And then it took its next step just a few weeks ago when the husband of my closest friend died very suddenly. Thus it was as I read Tony Horsfall’s account of the loss of his wife of 40 years, that memories of my own losses came back. The same may well be true for you as you read this excellent and insightful book.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eEvelyn Horsfall, or Ev as he calls her, died in July 2020 after a long period of cancer. Structured around notes and online postings written by Tony, this book describes the many aspects of the impact of her loss and the adjustments he has made to living alone again.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe book covers the first year of bereavement and is divided in to monthly sections. Each of these begins and ends with reflections on relevant biblical passages and insights by both the author and others on the nature of grief and the stages of bereavement. Inbetween these are extracts from those notes the author kept.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt is these notes which are, for this reviewer, the most profound. A tough read at times (as they ought to be, perhaps) they are honest and raw. They tell the story of the walk through loss. While at times they read as if they were being specifically written for publication, the overwhelming nature of them is one that reflects the author’s view and experience.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn these pages, Tony Horsfall describes not only the pain of loss but also issues such as loneliness (a recurrent theme), subsequent friendships, being part of a group of people who were bereaved and the practicalities of cooking and car buying.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e‘I don’t write to elicit sympathy. I write to express my feelings,’ he writes. And he does and that is clearly also cathartic for him. 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Month by month he tells the unfolding story of walking with and through loss, weaving this together with biblical teaching on grief and insights gained from grief counselling. With a poignant mix of honesty and humour, Tony shares the challenges of rebuilding his life and reflects on how he has seen God meet his needs as he wrestled with grieving in a time of lockdown and pandemic.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePraise for Resilience in Life and Faith: 'This book will have a ministry-wide impact.' Dr Laura Mae Gardner, former International Vice President for Personnel for Wycliffe Bible Translators and SIL International\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003eAuthor info\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003e\u003cimg style=\"margin-right: 10px; float: left;\" src=\"https:\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0148\/6107\/4532\/files\/TonyHorsfall_2014_480x480.png?v=1676494125\" width=\"211\" height=\"317\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTony Horsfall is a well-respected author and retreat leader who has a lifetime’s experience in mentoring others, including church leaders and missionaries, both in Britain and overseas. His book Deep Calls to Deep was reissued in 2021 because of its emphasis on lament and its relevance post pandemic. Grief Notes is a companion volume, describing as it does the author’s own experience of crying out to God from the depths.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003ch5\u003eEndorsements\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI highly recommend Tony Horsfall's new book, 'Grief notes: Walking through loss'. We are all likely to experience loss and to be in contact with people who are grieving. Grief can be very isolating. This book can help us feel less isolated as Tony shares his journey with us.\" Dr Debbie Hawker\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003eReviews\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTransforming Ministry Winter 2022. Review by Sue Piper\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe author takes us through a very honest and detailed account of his first year of bereavement after the death of his wife, using diary entries, some brief, some more lengthy but always from the heart; and although he quotes from other authors about grief (including C S Lewis) his observations are very personal. Because of this, the giving of this book as a gift needs careful judgement. Horsfall observes not only that he has moved through various stages of grief, but that unexpected setbacks can occur as other losses are remembered, and other memories reawakened. A real strength of this book is that it could be used as a handbook for pastoral care and also given to team members of a pastoral group in training. With this in mind, the last page lists many organisations who are committed to offering support to the newly bereaved. This book is a hard read for anyone newly bereaved, but it is invaluable when read with respect and care for the reader. The author shows his trust in God in all that he has written, and his faith has sustained him in the darkest times.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eReview by\u003c\/em\u003e \u003cem\u003eSue\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cem\u003e Piper \u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eChurch Times 15.07.22. Review by Pat Ashworth\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA paradox confronts those writing about grieving, because, if there’s one thing everyone in that situation accepts, it is that grieving is different for everyone, and no one can tell you how to do it. The way we grieve is ‘as unique as our fingerprints’, Tony Horsfall points out in this memoir of the first year after bereavement, drawn from his diary notes.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHis grief after losing his wife of 47 years was intensified by the lockdown and consequent loss of the support systems that would normally have come into play. Survival was harder. Eating alone was worse. Almost all that he writes about will be recognisable to those who have lost a spouse, not least the unpredictability of how you will feel at any one time.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn a sense, there is nothing new here. The book doesn’t attempt deep philosophy around death and loss; nor is it a manual on how to cope day by day. But he articulates feelings that resonate, like this one: ‘It often feels like I live in two worlds at the same time. The one universe is full of kind compassionate friends doing their best to comfort and reassure me… But then there’s the space within my head, a parallel universe, to which I must return.’ \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHe finds comfort in his daily devotions; he finds resources that help, and he concludes that grief can provide a ‘doorway to growth’, in which ‘hopefully we become deeper people, freed from the shallowness associated with a comfortable life.’\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003cem\u003eReviewed by Pat Ashworth\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eReview by Ruth McAllen \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.teardropgrief.co.uk\"\u003ehttps:\/\/www.teardropgrief.co.uk\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn \u003cem\u003eGrief Notes\u003c\/em\u003e you get to sit in the passenger seat as author Tony Horsfall takes you on a bumpy ride through his first year of bereavement. The reader would wisely secure their seat belt whilst Tony navigates his rocky road of grief. Losing his wife, Evelyn, to cancer in the midst of a pandemic, being imprisoned by lockdown and staring his own mortality in the face left Tony grappling with learning to live again. Nevertheless, he takes up a vulnerable stance, as month-by-month he catalogues his journey, allowing you to step into his world. The reader gets the full experience, the days of overwhelming angst coupled with pin prick moments of hope as little by little Tony manoeuvres through the tough grind of grief.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI love how Tony carefully weaves together his personal story with a treasure trove of biblical insights and much wise counsel. You will certainly find yourself captivated by the welcome blend of crisp transparency and warm-hearted humour. I found myself crying as Tony shared his acute sense of loneliness, and laughing as he revealed he could not boil an egg. His experiences are all easily relatable. Despite having much he could not understand, Tony is resolute in holding tightly to his Christian faith and the God he knows as faithful.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI appreciated Tony’s encouraging style as he moves into days of fresh hope, sharing how ‘new hopes can emerge’ from the depths of grief. ‘I was like a tree cut down, and hope was gone,’ he writes, ‘and yet, by God’s grace, I am coming back to life’.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTony’s book has left me richer and I applaud him for sharing his story with such honesty, vulnerability and warm humour. To those who mourn, and those supporting the bereaved, this is a valuable read, full of gold nuggets found in dark places. I highly recommend it.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eReview by Ruth McAllen https:\/\/www.teardropgrief.co.uk\/\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTogether magazine July\/August 2022\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eReviewed by Fiona Lloyd in her Books for Everyday Life section\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis is a book born out of a difficult life situation. Horsfall shares his journey through the first year of bereavement following the death of his wife, Evelyn, in July 2020. The book is mostly in diary form, which feels like a helpful format for charting the course of grief, as many of us who have experienced the death of a loved one will be able to identify with the sense of marking off significant dates in a new way.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI appreciated the way Horsfall was willing to be very honest about his emotions and things he found particularly tricky (such as signing a grandchild’s birthday card with one name instead of two). This was in some ways hard to read, and yet there is a thread of hope running through the book that reminds us that, for the Christian believer, death is not the end.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHorsfall also takes time to share his thoughts and insights, including Bible passages that have proved comforting for him. This is done sensitively and there are no pat answers, but to my mind this makes the writing more authentic. There is also a useful list of further reading at the end of the book. I would recommend this to anyone who is struggling with grief themselves, but also as a valuable resource for those involved in pastoral care.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eReviewed by Paul Beasley-Murray \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/us12.campaign-archive.com\/?u=a45b3e6fc109e00f067477a28\u0026amp;id=5664bb31b8\"\u003eBooks for today\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eGrief Notes: Walking through loss\u003c\/em\u003e by Tony Horsfall, charts the first year of the author’s grief journey since the death of his wife from cancer. It is made up of notes he kept and postings he made online during the time, to which he subsequently added insights gained along the way from scripture as also from books on grief. It is a deeply moving story. Although no one’s grief is the same, nonetheless it will undoubtedly be of great help to many. If I were still a local church pastor, I would buy ten copies to give to those seeking to come to terms with the loss of a loved one. Full of common sense, it is also full of Christian faith!\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eReviewed by Richard Frost \u003cspan data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/workrestpray.com\/\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\" data-mce-href=\"http:\/\/workrestpray.com\/\"\u003eworkrestpray.com\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eEveryone’s journey through grief is unique. My own started when I was 17 when my Mum died. And then it took its next step just a few weeks ago when the husband of my closest friend died very suddenly. Thus it was as I read Tony Horsfall’s account of the loss of his wife of 40 years, that memories of my own losses came back. The same may well be true for you as you read this excellent and insightful book.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eEvelyn Horsfall, or Ev as he calls her, died in July 2020 after a long period of cancer. Structured around notes and online postings written by Tony, this book describes the many aspects of the impact of her loss and the adjustments he has made to living alone again.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe book covers the first year of bereavement and is divided in to monthly sections. Each of these begins and ends with reflections on relevant biblical passages and insights by both the author and others on the nature of grief and the stages of bereavement. Inbetween these are extracts from those notes the author kept.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt is these notes which are, for this reviewer, the most profound. A tough read at times (as they ought to be, perhaps) they are honest and raw. They tell the story of the walk through loss. While at times they read as if they were being specifically written for publication, the overwhelming nature of them is one that reflects the author’s view and experience.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn these pages, Tony Horsfall describes not only the pain of loss but also issues such as loneliness (a recurrent theme), subsequent friendships, being part of a group of people who were bereaved and the practicalities of cooking and car buying.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e‘I don’t write to elicit sympathy. I write to express my feelings,’ he writes. And he does and that is clearly also cathartic for him. It will, I feel, be cathartic for those who read this book too.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRichard Frost is the author of \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/products\/life-with-st-benedict-the-rule-re-imagined-for-everyday-living\"\u003e\u003cem\u003eLife with St Benedict\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e and writes a blog at \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/workrestpray.com\/\"\u003eworkrestpray.com\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e"}
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{"id":2439795015780,"title":"God among the Ruins: Trust and transformation in difficult times","handle":"god-among-the-ruins-trust-and-transformation-in-difficult-times","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhere do we turn when our world is falling apart?\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003eIt takes courage to hope; to stand in our confusion and grief and still to believe that 'God is not helpless among the ruins'. Guided by Habakkuk and his prophetic landmarks, we are drawn on a reflective journey through the tangled landscape of bewildered faith, through places of wrestling and waiting, and on into the growth space of deepened trust and transformation. As you read, discover for yourself the value and practice of honest prayer, of surrender, of silence and listening, and of irrepressible hoping.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003eContents\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIntroduction\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIt's a long and winding road\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWounded ragings\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIt wasn't meant to be like this\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDon't just do something, sit there!\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eOf plastic bottles, empty tin cans and trust\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFrom the back door to the barn door - and beyond\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhat's in a name?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWalking with the wounded\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003eEndorsements\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe wonder of this book is its searing honesty. Through the lens of her own life-changing loss and learning from Habbakuk's journey through profound pain, Mags helps us see how we might come to trust the goodness of God amidst heart-rending devastation and chaos. This is gentle, biblically-rooted, and carefully crafted wisdom that faces difficult questions and emotions of suffering head on yet persists in seeking God amongst it all. This is wisdom that has been lived. I trust that many might discover this book.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e Tracy Cotterell, London Institute for Contemporary Christianity \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eOn 9\/11 when I saw the Twin Towers in New York, one after the other, pancake to the ground in a deafening explosion of devastation and heart-wrenching tragedy, it was hard to imagine God among those ruins. When I walked beside a couple whose only child had died at 10 months on Thanksgiving Day, they found it hard to imagine a God among their ruins. When my own hopes and dreams collapsed after trying everything imaginable to keep them alive, I too struggled with finding God in the ruins. In this beautifully written book and with a careful study of Habakkuk, Duggan unfolds the story of her own journey through haunting loss to the transforming comfort of God. So if you have struggled with believing in a loving God when your own world collapses, this book will serve you well. It certainly guided and helped me. Dr.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e MaryKate Morse, professor, author and spiritual director \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf only I had had this book when I looked for help with my own experience of deep and all-pervading disappointment with God in 1983 and could find nothing written on the subject! An interaction with the words of the Old Testament prophet Habakkuk based on Mags's own devastation, it is totally authentic in declaring the pain each of them went through and the ways in which they related to God in and through it. It is totally practical as well in offering guidance through activities that help one to recognise one's own difficulties and bring them before God. And, through it all, no matter how horrible the circumstances and the experience, Emmanuel, the God who is with us. It is wonderful to have such a resource available to those who are going through pain and anger with God.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e Dr Colin Bulley, Pioneers UK, Member Care Consultant, Spiritual Director \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI was eagerly anticipating the release of 'God Among The Ruins', having sat under Mags Duggan's teaching on a number of occasions, and I was not disappointed. Although the book was birthed in the author's own journey of suffering, that does not become the main focus. Each chapter gently and compassionately brings the reader to God Himself through the faith journey of Habakkuk. Mags has not avoided the problems that suffering brings, nor has she offered trite answers where there are none. Rather she helps us learn to walk with the questions as we move towards God. The practical reflections suggested at the end of each chapter are so helpful for readers wanting to apply the truths they are encountering. So helpful. So good.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e Valerie Murphy, Coordinator of Women's Bible Teaching Ministry, Crescent Church Belfast, Retreat Leader, Bible Teacher \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIncisively yet simply written, there are lessons for us all, not just those who have suffered grief or earthquake.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e Revd Canon Dr Steve Davie, Principal of the Bradford Hub of the Leeds School of Ministry \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003eAuthor info\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003e\u003cimg height=\"384\" width=\"288\" src=\"https:\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0148\/6107\/4532\/files\/MagsinFergusFalls_480x480.jpg?v=1676493905\" alt=\"\" style=\"margin-right: 10px; float: left;\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMags Duggan has worked with the Navigators for 35 years, many of these as a cross-cultural missionary in East Asia, Hong Kong and Taiwan. More recently, she was on the faculty of Redcliffe College, Gloucester, where she lectured in two areas she is passionate about: Spiritual Formation and Soul Care. Currently, she is engaged in providing spiritual nurture and pastoral care to a diverse group of cross-cultural missionaries and ministry leaders, both here in the UK and around the world.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003ch5\u003eMedia reviews\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThe Reader, Winter 2018. Review by Howard Rowe\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis is an honest and moving book, with a message for everyone who has struggled or suffered. It is based on the book of Habakkuk, whose short prophecy tells of the prophet's despair, questioning and wrestling with God, and emergence as a wiser, more peaceful person. Duggan tells her own story of despair, questioning, wrestling and her emergence as a wiser, more peaceful person. God Among the Ruins is honest and gently emotive. It is not intended to be a happy story, but it is a tremendously encouraging one. Duggan's chapter on 'Walking with the wounded' is particularly moving. The writing is warm and compelling. It could suit a home group as well as an individual. Each chapter contains simple but practical suggestions to help the reader put the message into practice. It is a book of hope, which nearly everyone would benefit from. I recommend it.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eReview by Howard Rowe\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e_____________________________________________________________________\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThe Baptist Times, August 2018. Reviewed by David Stuckey\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhen I was a lot younger my mum gave me her copy of God in The Slums written by Hugh Redwood in the 1930s. It was not an easy read for a young lad but I have revisited it several times in the intervening years and have come to appreciate its sincerity and its poignancy. It told of finding God's presence in unlikely places, in the midst of trial and tribulation, and at times it could be an achingly poignant read.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI have come across few accounts of loss and despair over the years to come close to Redwood's image of abiding faith - until now. Mags Duggan has similarly identified God's goodness and guidance in times of trial and torment. 'Trust and transformation in difficult times,' she suggests, as her opening reflection in God Among the Ruins repeats familiar words from Habakkuk: 'Even though ... even here ... Emmanuel'. At times when God seemed distant, when crops failed, when death and devastation abounded, Habakkuk was able to declare 'Yet I will rejoice'.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMags gives her readers an achingly personal reflection of coming to terms with the death of her young niece from cancer, and those words she found which resonated with her in these circumstances came from another who clung to his faith in God in harrowing circumstances. The words of Eric Liddell, the Olympic runner and missionary who died in a Japanese prisoner of war camp came to her, 'sparking the hope of healing and new life,' she writes. Liddell had declared 'Circumstances may appear to wreck our lives and God's plans, but God is not helpless among the ruins.'\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis is a book to savour, to dip into for comfort and support, to reflect on personal circumstances and to appreciate the rewards of faith and Christian support. And having unwrapped and dissected Habakkuk in many helpful and meaningful ways, the author then reveals that she too was diagnosed with breast cancer on the day she submitted the manuscript for publication.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis is a book to make you weep and wonder, as it gives the reader fresh insight not only into living with cancer but also submitting one's life into the caring arms of the Almighty.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eDavid Stuckey is a journalist and member of Maghull Baptist Church, Merseyside\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003chr\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eReview by Mike Treneer, International President Emeritus, The Navigators (8 March 2018)\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThere are many reasons to commend Mags Duggan's beautifully written book 'God Among the Ruins'! I will mention just three:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis meditation on the Old Testament book of Habakkuk in the light of Mags' own experience of grief for her niece, powerfully brings Bible and life together in ways that help us to understand both.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMags combines profound insights into some of life's most challenging questions with simple practical suggestions for growing in our relationship with God through them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhile Mags opens up her own process of grief, she helpfully illustrates and guides us in how we too can 'comfort others with the comfort we too have received from God.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eReview by Mike Treneer, International President Emeritus, The Navigators.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e_____________________________________________________________________\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e","published_at":"2019-01-18T15:23:29+00:00","created_at":"2019-01-18T15:23:31+00:00","vendor":"Mags Duggan","type":"Paperback","tags":["Anna Chaplaincy books","Kindle","Pastoral care","Recommended for Anna Chaplaincy","Torch Trust","Women"],"price":899,"price_min":899,"price_max":899,"available":true,"price_varies":false,"compare_at_price":null,"compare_at_price_min":0,"compare_at_price_max":0,"compare_at_price_varies":false,"variants":[{"id":21769678848100,"title":"Paperback","option1":"Paperback","option2":null,"option3":null,"sku":"9780857465757","requires_shipping":true,"taxable":false,"featured_image":{"id":7436832178276,"product_id":2439795015780,"position":1,"created_at":"2019-01-18T15:23:31+00:00","updated_at":"2019-02-01T17:45:39+00:00","alt":null,"width":427,"height":650,"src":"\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/products\/9780857465757-l.jpg?v=1549043139","variant_ids":[21769678848100]},"available":true,"name":"God among the Ruins: Trust and transformation in difficult times - Paperback","public_title":"Paperback","options":["Paperback"],"price":899,"weight":162,"compare_at_price":null,"inventory_management":"shopify","barcode":"9780857465757","featured_media":{"alt":null,"id":3238879527051,"position":1,"preview_image":{"aspect_ratio":0.657,"height":650,"width":427,"src":"\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/products\/9780857465757-l.jpg?v=1549043139"}},"requires_selling_plan":false,"selling_plan_allocations":[]}],"images":["\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/products\/9780857465757-l.jpg?v=1549043139","\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/files\/50_6c8264b5-c1ab-40fc-87c3-ef992720c7bd.png?v=1734095701"],"featured_image":"\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/products\/9780857465757-l.jpg?v=1549043139","options":["Format"],"media":[{"alt":null,"id":3238879527051,"position":1,"preview_image":{"aspect_ratio":0.657,"height":650,"width":427,"src":"\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/products\/9780857465757-l.jpg?v=1549043139"},"aspect_ratio":0.657,"height":650,"media_type":"image","src":"\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/products\/9780857465757-l.jpg?v=1549043139","width":427},{"alt":null,"id":63560967586172,"position":2,"preview_image":{"aspect_ratio":0.652,"height":2000,"width":1303,"src":"\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/files\/50_6c8264b5-c1ab-40fc-87c3-ef992720c7bd.png?v=1734095701"},"aspect_ratio":0.652,"height":2000,"media_type":"image","src":"\/\/www.brfonline.org.uk\/cdn\/shop\/files\/50_6c8264b5-c1ab-40fc-87c3-ef992720c7bd.png?v=1734095701","width":1303}],"requires_selling_plan":false,"selling_plan_groups":[],"content":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhere do we turn when our world is falling apart?\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003eIt takes courage to hope; to stand in our confusion and grief and still to believe that 'God is not helpless among the ruins'. Guided by Habakkuk and his prophetic landmarks, we are drawn on a reflective journey through the tangled landscape of bewildered faith, through places of wrestling and waiting, and on into the growth space of deepened trust and transformation. As you read, discover for yourself the value and practice of honest prayer, of surrender, of silence and listening, and of irrepressible hoping.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003eContents\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIntroduction\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIt's a long and winding road\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWounded ragings\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIt wasn't meant to be like this\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDon't just do something, sit there!\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eOf plastic bottles, empty tin cans and trust\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFrom the back door to the barn door - and beyond\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhat's in a name?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWalking with the wounded\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003eEndorsements\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe wonder of this book is its searing honesty. Through the lens of her own life-changing loss and learning from Habbakuk's journey through profound pain, Mags helps us see how we might come to trust the goodness of God amidst heart-rending devastation and chaos. This is gentle, biblically-rooted, and carefully crafted wisdom that faces difficult questions and emotions of suffering head on yet persists in seeking God amongst it all. This is wisdom that has been lived. I trust that many might discover this book.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e Tracy Cotterell, London Institute for Contemporary Christianity \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eOn 9\/11 when I saw the Twin Towers in New York, one after the other, pancake to the ground in a deafening explosion of devastation and heart-wrenching tragedy, it was hard to imagine God among those ruins. When I walked beside a couple whose only child had died at 10 months on Thanksgiving Day, they found it hard to imagine a God among their ruins. When my own hopes and dreams collapsed after trying everything imaginable to keep them alive, I too struggled with finding God in the ruins. In this beautifully written book and with a careful study of Habakkuk, Duggan unfolds the story of her own journey through haunting loss to the transforming comfort of God. So if you have struggled with believing in a loving God when your own world collapses, this book will serve you well. It certainly guided and helped me. Dr.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e MaryKate Morse, professor, author and spiritual director \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf only I had had this book when I looked for help with my own experience of deep and all-pervading disappointment with God in 1983 and could find nothing written on the subject! An interaction with the words of the Old Testament prophet Habakkuk based on Mags's own devastation, it is totally authentic in declaring the pain each of them went through and the ways in which they related to God in and through it. It is totally practical as well in offering guidance through activities that help one to recognise one's own difficulties and bring them before God. And, through it all, no matter how horrible the circumstances and the experience, Emmanuel, the God who is with us. It is wonderful to have such a resource available to those who are going through pain and anger with God.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e Dr Colin Bulley, Pioneers UK, Member Care Consultant, Spiritual Director \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI was eagerly anticipating the release of 'God Among The Ruins', having sat under Mags Duggan's teaching on a number of occasions, and I was not disappointed. Although the book was birthed in the author's own journey of suffering, that does not become the main focus. Each chapter gently and compassionately brings the reader to God Himself through the faith journey of Habakkuk. Mags has not avoided the problems that suffering brings, nor has she offered trite answers where there are none. Rather she helps us learn to walk with the questions as we move towards God. The practical reflections suggested at the end of each chapter are so helpful for readers wanting to apply the truths they are encountering. So helpful. So good.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e Valerie Murphy, Coordinator of Women's Bible Teaching Ministry, Crescent Church Belfast, Retreat Leader, Bible Teacher \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIncisively yet simply written, there are lessons for us all, not just those who have suffered grief or earthquake.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e Revd Canon Dr Steve Davie, Principal of the Bradford Hub of the Leeds School of Ministry \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003eAuthor info\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003e\u003cimg height=\"384\" width=\"288\" src=\"https:\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0148\/6107\/4532\/files\/MagsinFergusFalls_480x480.jpg?v=1676493905\" alt=\"\" style=\"margin-right: 10px; float: left;\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMags Duggan has worked with the Navigators for 35 years, many of these as a cross-cultural missionary in East Asia, Hong Kong and Taiwan. More recently, she was on the faculty of Redcliffe College, Gloucester, where she lectured in two areas she is passionate about: Spiritual Formation and Soul Care. Currently, she is engaged in providing spiritual nurture and pastoral care to a diverse group of cross-cultural missionaries and ministry leaders, both here in the UK and around the world.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003ch5\u003eMedia reviews\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThe Reader, Winter 2018. Review by Howard Rowe\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis is an honest and moving book, with a message for everyone who has struggled or suffered. It is based on the book of Habakkuk, whose short prophecy tells of the prophet's despair, questioning and wrestling with God, and emergence as a wiser, more peaceful person. Duggan tells her own story of despair, questioning, wrestling and her emergence as a wiser, more peaceful person. God Among the Ruins is honest and gently emotive. It is not intended to be a happy story, but it is a tremendously encouraging one. Duggan's chapter on 'Walking with the wounded' is particularly moving. The writing is warm and compelling. It could suit a home group as well as an individual. Each chapter contains simple but practical suggestions to help the reader put the message into practice. It is a book of hope, which nearly everyone would benefit from. I recommend it.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eReview by Howard Rowe\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e_____________________________________________________________________\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThe Baptist Times, August 2018. Reviewed by David Stuckey\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhen I was a lot younger my mum gave me her copy of God in The Slums written by Hugh Redwood in the 1930s. It was not an easy read for a young lad but I have revisited it several times in the intervening years and have come to appreciate its sincerity and its poignancy. It told of finding God's presence in unlikely places, in the midst of trial and tribulation, and at times it could be an achingly poignant read.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI have come across few accounts of loss and despair over the years to come close to Redwood's image of abiding faith - until now. Mags Duggan has similarly identified God's goodness and guidance in times of trial and torment. 'Trust and transformation in difficult times,' she suggests, as her opening reflection in God Among the Ruins repeats familiar words from Habakkuk: 'Even though ... even here ... Emmanuel'. At times when God seemed distant, when crops failed, when death and devastation abounded, Habakkuk was able to declare 'Yet I will rejoice'.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMags gives her readers an achingly personal reflection of coming to terms with the death of her young niece from cancer, and those words she found which resonated with her in these circumstances came from another who clung to his faith in God in harrowing circumstances. The words of Eric Liddell, the Olympic runner and missionary who died in a Japanese prisoner of war camp came to her, 'sparking the hope of healing and new life,' she writes. Liddell had declared 'Circumstances may appear to wreck our lives and God's plans, but God is not helpless among the ruins.'\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis is a book to savour, to dip into for comfort and support, to reflect on personal circumstances and to appreciate the rewards of faith and Christian support. And having unwrapped and dissected Habakkuk in many helpful and meaningful ways, the author then reveals that she too was diagnosed with breast cancer on the day she submitted the manuscript for publication.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis is a book to make you weep and wonder, as it gives the reader fresh insight not only into living with cancer but also submitting one's life into the caring arms of the Almighty.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eDavid Stuckey is a journalist and member of Maghull Baptist Church, Merseyside\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003chr\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eReview by Mike Treneer, International President Emeritus, The Navigators (8 March 2018)\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThere are many reasons to commend Mags Duggan's beautifully written book 'God Among the Ruins'! I will mention just three:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis meditation on the Old Testament book of Habakkuk in the light of Mags' own experience of grief for her niece, powerfully brings Bible and life together in ways that help us to understand both.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMags combines profound insights into some of life's most challenging questions with simple practical suggestions for growing in our relationship with God through them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhile Mags opens up her own process of grief, she helpfully illustrates and guides us in how we too can 'comfort others with the comfort we too have received from God.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eReview by Mike Treneer, International President Emeritus, The Navigators.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e_____________________________________________________________________\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e"}
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