Would Like to Meet...

The real-life diary of a 30-something Christian woman looking for love

HopefulGirl

Currently out of print £6.99

Content

A Christian woman finds herself suddenly single at 35. She's heard rumours about the lack of marriageable men in the church, but she's convinced her Mr Right is out there somewhere. She just has to find him.

So begins HopefulGirl's mission to find 'The One' - with the help of Christian dating websites, church singles events and some well-meaning pals.

Join HopefulGirl on her journey through the Christian singles scene, during which she wonders: can 'like' turn into 'love'? Is marrying a non-Christian an option when single women massively outnumber single men in the church? And what should you do when your biological clock is ticking, but you're not clicking with the men you meet?

Along with the way, HopefulGirl encounters TinyMan, PilotMan, BeardyMan, TechiMan, HaughtyMan, ShyMan, CountryMan and a host of other colourful characters. But are any of them her Mr Right... and will HopefulGirl get her happy ending?

Would Like To Meet is based on the popular column in Woman Alive magazine.

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Author info

HopefulGirl lives in a major UK city, and works in the media. She has been a Christian for 27 years. After finding herself suddenly single at 35, she set about finding Mr Right. Her anonymous column in Woman Alive magazine, in which she shared the highs and lows of her adventures on the Christian singles scene, was an instant hit with readers. Her book, Would Like To Meet, goes behind the scenes to reveal the full story of her four-year journey from dejected dumpee to dating doyenne.

Reviews

From The Good Bookstall - July 2013

An extremely enjoyable read in which 'HopefulGirl' (pseudonym of the 30-something or other author) goes about various ways of trying to find 'Mr Right' chronicling her encounters in diary format.

She cleverly names the possible suitors with their attributes. Hence Mr Shy, Mr Haughty, Mr Executive etc., which makes them memorable and easy to recall when mentioned in later scenarios. The dates she goes on are through friends' contacts, through church singles groups and through Christian dating agencies.

This book would be particularly helpful to the many 'singles' who now use internet dating sites. The author does not denigrate these, but through her personal experiences gives tips and helpful advice on how to go about it, and how to get out of fraught situations.

Written with great gusto, humour and honesty this book is a delight to read - and no - I won't spoil the end! Anyone out there hoping to end their single status by meeting 'Mr Right' could not do better than to read this book, and thus armed and inspired, enter the fray with hope and prayer.


This is a review of a book written by someone of a generation that can be quite small in many church congregations. However proof that the content appeals across age groups is the popularity of the original magazine column.

It is an enjoyable read written with humour and sensitivity. It also raises some important questions which the wider church may want to consider such as singles can feel a very real pressure to get married too quickly. This is the search for Mr Right not Mr right now, a man of God's choice; and the family unit can be given a priority although a high proportion of the congregation may for different reasons be single. The book also highlights most singles events take place at festivals, few are in churches.

HopefulGirl also provides discussions on who should pay for first dates as well as advice for putting up information on a dating website. Most of all we feel like we are spending time with this anonymous writer, enjoying her humour, sharing the sadness and at times fatigue but admiring the optimism that made her keep going. Personally I would love some single Christian men to read this, just to see the other side of the whole single scene.

Reviewed by Lilian Gill


This book is very good company - HopefulGirl soon has you on her side, thanks to her brave honesty and endearing empathy. Her sense of humour is keen, but so is her kindness; you never feel she's laughing at people in the new dating shores she has so unexpectedly found herself. I laughed a lot, and found some of her discoveries poignant too - and had tears in my eyes towards the end of her tale. This book's a consciousness-raiser, not only for those looking for a partner, but for those who are passionate about examining what makes life meaningful. You don't have to be a Christian for it to speak to you (I'm not); and I rather hope for a sequel to HopefulGirl's story, wherever her search takes her.'

Reviewed by Brigid Love


From Woman Alive

Readers of Woman Alive have been following HopefulGirl's journey for more than three years and it's become one of the most popular features in the magazine. Singles have identified with her story and married readers have taken up her cause, offered advice and shared their own stories of how they met their man. We've laughed, booed, cheered and winced over some of her encounters, and everyone is desperate for a happy ending for our heroine.

But alongside all the fun, HopefulGirl has provided a real insight into the Christian dating scene and the challenges facing single Christian women searching for love. Amid a host of colourful characters including PilotMan, NastyMan and CrewCutMan, plus the ever helpful TopBro, she highlights the problems of an imbalance of the sexes in our churches, of unrealistic expectations, and unhelpful comments and matchmaking from well-meaning friends and church members. This is a warm, witty and engaging story, which tackles a major issue for many women (and men) in our churches today.

Reviewed by Jackie Harris, Editor, Woman Alive


From Church of England Newspape - February 2013

'Valentine's Day and the postman suffered a hernia carrying all of my cards and flowers to the door. I had to call him an ambulance.' Sounds like you? Keep reading.

'As if. This weekend's post consisted of a bank statement and a gas bill. Very romantic.' Yes, that sounds about right. If you are one of those girls (or maybe guys) who need a few laughs to get you past the puppy love couples, I suggest Would Like to Meet to keep you pleased throughout Valentine's Day. HopefulGirl writes this guide to surviving the internet and speed dating world as a Christian. She is a 35-year-old who was recently dumped when her ex-fianc e, Partyboy, who booted her for another girl last Christmas. She had spent her entire life with him and suddenly she found herself nearing 40 without a child or a ring. The easy read may only take a few hours to finish - her stories are hilarious. The book remarks on four years of this, but each date brings fresh laughs. The men she manages to find are extraordinary and her struggles will keep readers turning the page. While it's terrible to find giggles in her journey, her humor is what keeps the men clutching to her. She's genuinely honest and does not settle which is admirable. Her book is a true inspiration for singles. The main lesson she reflects on is always keeping the faith and leaving it up to God. In her journey, she relies on BestGirl and TopBro for encouragement and words of advice. Her fight for love leads her to cheating men, commitmentphobes and even to switch churches for men. She covers the 'three date rule', being 'mortgaged', rekindling high school feelings, and whether going 'dutch' makes men feel cheap or impressed. She's completely raw since her identity is a mystery. Her secret to surviving the 'commercialzed' Valentine's Day? 'I've even been known to buy myself a bunch of flowers for Valentine's Day (not quite as sad as it sounds)


An amusing look at Christian dating

It's an often daunting and complex world. That is the way many people see the Christian singles scene with its various dances, speed dating and dating websites. Well done to HopefulGirl (the identity of the author is anonymous - probably to protect the blokes she dates) for an accurate and sensitive portrayal of four years of ploughing through the Christian dating scene.

Based on a column from Woman Alive magazine, BRF have published this 156 page account of the highlights and cringe worthy low lights of a woman who has decided to commit herself to finding a Christian bloke.

It's an easy, quick and amusing read. You can picture the various blokes; Beardyman, Techiman, Dimpleman and Countryman, as they arise. Don't be put off by the pink on the front cover and the lighthearted tone. This book deals with some serious issues in an amusing way. It's great for anyone single, in their 30s who has first hand experience of this scene. I was struck by HopefulGirl's sensitivity towards some of the more dodgy blokes she meets. If you are in that demographic you are likely to find this book replicating the conversations you have with your mates in the pub after church.

If you don't fit that category, it may well help you understand that particular demographic better and understand how to treat single people more sensitively. (Prolific match making is not always the best way forward.) HopefulGirl makes a really valid point about what she describes as the way churches 'fetishise marriage and family life when it's something many of the congregation will never experience.'

Later she makes more points about not assuming that a single person is desperate, or that they have loads of time to serve on committees, run the Sunday school etc - on one salary rather than two they often have to work harder to pay the bills. This slim book is perfect for a short haul flight or train journey. Don't expect particularly deep descriptions that help you get to know the characters - these are caricatures of people we've all met at some point.

Reviewed by Jo Duckles, Editor, The Door, Oxford Diocese

Book details

  • ISBN: 9780857461520
  • Published: 18 January 2013
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  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 160
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